How To Help Picky Eaters Try New Foods

Want to learn how to help picky eaters try new foods? If you have a toddler or child who struggles with only liking a few foods, the “love it, like it, learning approach” from this Registered Dietitian may help them become a more adventurous eater at meal time!

Hi friends!

As promised, I have a great post to share with you guys today about picky eating. This is one of the questions I hear most often, both as a mom and as an RD. I’ve shared an approach I use in this post about Why My Toddler Doesn’t Always Eat What I Eat, but I recognize that not all approaches work for everyone. So, I asked Ashley, my friend and fellow RD mama, to share her “Love it, like it, learning it” approach with you guys today! Let us know if you give it a try!

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Hi, I am Ashley and I am the mom of two (with another on the way!) and pediatric dietitian over at Veggies & Virtue. I share meal planning systems and feeding strategies that help families experience “Less mealtime stress and more feeding success.”

As a dietitian mom, I wish I was immune to picky eaters in my home. However, that has definitely not been my family’s story.

Shortly after my oldest daughter turned one, I started seeing signs of “picky eating” or what I prefer to label as an apprehensiveness towards the foods I was offering. We experienced the gradual and yet progressive switch from having an infant who ate and enjoyed a variety of foods to a young toddler who exercised her independence most often at the table.

As I know many fellow parents can relate, it was exhausting.

I had a lot of foot in mouth moments as a new dietitian mom. There were tips and tricks I had learned throughout my education and dietitian experience that seemed completely logical for share as solutions for helping children overcome picky eating. Nothing could quite prepare me though for the endless trials of having to execute these very approaches with my own kid.

That’s what led me to working to adopting a “Love it, Like it, Learning it” at (almost) every meal.

As a registered dietitian who values evidenced-based information, I knew the Division of Responsibility in Feeding was the only approach I could confidently use for my food parenting style. What I found to be a stumbling block for our family though was how to both establish “my role” (of what, when, and where food was offered) while only offering one meal for the whole family (more on this here).

At the time, my daughter’s list of accepted foods was so small. When I listed out the foods I knew she would eat, I didn’t see any red flags for extreme picky eating. The list was still limited enough that I was still constantly stressed over what to feed her (without always making her a separate meal).

So I took the principles I knew to be sound from Ellyn Satter’s research, and I began to reorganize how I mentally worked through our family’s menus with the simple phrase, “Love it, Like it, Learning it.”

What is “Love it, Like it, Learning it?”

“Love It, Like It, Learning It” is a way to repeatedly expose individuals to a variety of new or non-preferred foods alongside their known favorites. This approach minimizes age-appropriate pickiness by establishing a new standard for how meals are offered. Through the simple saying of “Love It, Like It, Learning It” and straight-forward strategy of organizing meals in this way, parents can help kids “learn to like” new foods without the food fight nor parental frustration.

What are “Love it,” “Like it,” and “Learning it” foods?

Love It Foods: Foods your child consistently likes and preferentially favors compared to all others. These are foods your child eats most of the time.

Like It Foods: Foods your child usually likes but may eat less (or none) of when offered alongside “love it” foods. These are foods your child eats some of the time they are offered.

Learning It Foods: Foods your child rarely (if ever) likes and may or may not have ever been exposed to before. These are foods your child rarely if ever eats.

Why use a “Love it, Like it, Learning it” approach?

As mentioned in the introduction to this article, an obvious reason many moms (like myself) are motivated to use this approach is because we feel near defeat. When our level of frustration over finding foods our children will eat becomes an ongoing issue that impedes our ability to even enjoy mealtimes, we know we need to find another approach.

What’s more is using the “Love it, Like it, Learning it” approach puts a practical, tangible tagline on figuring out “what” to feed your family. As advisable with the Division of Responsibility of feeding, parents remain responsible for figuring out what to offer our children. Instead of always defaulting to the foods we *know* they will eat, however (their love it or like it foods), this approach helps us to work towards intentionally developing a foundation for future eating habits and taste preferences without the use of pressure, frustration, or force.

This approach helps parents capitalize on their child’s relationship with food in the early years by exposing them to wide variety of real foods and establishing a positive family feeding environment. By having a framework for exposing our children to “Learning It Foods,” we move away from prematurely assuming our child “doesn’t like it” but rather needs ongoing, repeated exposure so they can eventually “learn to like it.”

How does a “Love it, Like it, Learning it” approach work?

Research shows that when familiar and unfamiliar foods are offered together, it may make children more likely to try the unfamiliar “Learning It Food” (especially for the child with neophobia, or a fear of new foods). Research also reminds us often that many children need as many as 20 or more repeated food exposures before they will eat a new food. In order for parents and children to not fatigue early over these foods, having an expectation over how to offer these foods help set families up for greater long-term success.

Rather than children expecting every meal to be made up of only their specific favorites (such as short-order cooking), they can come to understand that family meals include a variety of foods that each member of the family enjoys. For the child, this helps establish trust in the feeding relationship with their that there will be foods the child both “loves” and is “still learning” at any given meal (instead of a “eat this or starve” approach). This also helps children to feel more calm and confident around new foods being offered, rather than anxious or even obnoxious towards them being on their plate.

For parents, pairing meals with a “Love it, Like it, Learning it” approach offers peace of mind that there is always something being offered that their kid should/could/usually would eat (i.e. the parent is not “making them starve). This lessens the mom guilt during meals when the child, who is responsible for if/whether and how much they eat, chooses not to eat nor enjoy the foods that is offered. This again re-establishes a Division of Responsibility in feeding for your family that can gradually help restore enjoyment for family meals.

What is an example of what “Love it, Like it, Learning it” looks like in real life?

Each week, I share meal plans over on Veggies & Virtue. While the menu ideas shared on my blog are for everyone, I take it a step further in my weekly newsletters to share with subscribers how I break down every weekly menu to what fits my family’s “Love it, Like it, Learning it” lists. With two children whose lists continue to change, I am often adapting this to work for us as I always recommend others do for their own families.

The framework remains the same though in how you can serve any given meal and find ways to make it work for your unique family.

Here is a sneak peak at how this week’s Lean Green Bean inspired meal plan would look with “Love it, Like it, Learning it” applied. You can find the complete blog post here.

1 ǁ Family Dinner Sunday: Slow Cooker Rotisserie Chicken

LOVE IT: roasted red potatoes, “chicken bones” (legs from chicken), strawberries

LIKE IT: roasted broccoli

LEARNING IT: kiwi

2 ǁ Meatless Monday: Lasagna Soup

LOVE IT: apple slices, whole grain baguette with butter, milk

LIKE IT: shredded mozzarella cheese

LEARNING IT: lasagna soup

3 ǁ Taco Tuesday: Crockpot Cilantro Lime Chicken

LOVE IT: shredded cheddar, multigrain tortilla chips, fresh pineapple

LIKE IT: cilantro lime chicken

LEARNING IT: salad fixings (spinach/greens, diced tomato, avocados, olives), salsa

4 ǁ Pasta Night: Spaghetti and Slow-Cooker Meatballs

LOVE IT: whole grain spaghetti tossed in olive oil, satsumas, milk

LIKE IT: sauteed green beans

LEARNING IT: slow-cooker meatballs

5 ǁ Leftovers

6 ǁ Pizza Night

7 ǁ Soup/Stew Saturday: Slow-Cooker Sweet Potato Chicken Chili

LOVE IT: corn on the cob, grapes, milk

LIKE IT: cornbread muffins with butter and honey

LEARNING IT: sweet potato chicken chili

Where can I get more info?

If you are interested in learning more about Love it, Like it, Learning it and how to see it applied to everyday life, you can follow me on Instagram @veggiesandvirtue or sign up for my weekly newsletter here.

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Enjoy!
–Lindsay–